This is not a psychology lesson. For those of who might not know what is an extrovert or introvert. Research suggests that extroverted people are more open, talkative and care for others displaying their emotions more externally. Introverted people are more reserved, care very deeply perhaps more quietly and process information more internally.
In order for our world to be amazing both types need to co-exist happily. The current statistics suggests that world is predominately extroverted. It’s almost filtered into a lot of the media advertising and articles we are fed on a daily basis. The louder you are the more stronger you are perceived to be. The more bolder ‘out there’ actions the more fun you seem. Otherwise it’s as if you are “dead”. It is false to think this way.
As a child, I was much more introverted. And I loved it. Just me myself and my books in my little bubble dreaming of endless fantasies and fairytales! It was peaceful being in my own space recharging away from the crazy playground. As I went through higher education uni and workplaces, I have been challenged by the outside world to be more extroverted. It’s all about being connected to the real world and a fast changing one at that. You might feel like this wherever you are. As a young Muslimah do I need to be so va va voom to be recognised or will they attach on the “oppressed” label just because I like to remain quiet or silent.
Mmm.. silence. They don’t call it deadly for no reason. A quality which is highly respected by spiritual leaders yet under appreciated by the masses. It is common practice within meditation and notice how when we pray by ourselves. It’s silence- just you and Allah swt. You feel the pure peace of mind. Ever wondered why the prophets would be high up in the mountains seeking solitude from the chaos of the dunya ( worldly life) and it is there they received revelations from Allah swt. We don’t need to be yapping away with each other to figure everything out. Silence is such a beautiful thing but we do not practise it enough in this hectic life.
Have you ever wondered why Allah swt mentioned and warned us about using our tongues? Yes we should be mindful not to back bite, curse but also what is said and how much is said. Prophet Muhammad PBUH declared : “I was sent to you to perfect good character” (Book of Al Adab 273). Prophet Muhammad PBUH being the greatest human to live was sent as a guidance for us so we should analyse and follow how he conducted himself. He was a quiet, calm and soft speaking man who thought very carefully about the words he used which means he was not a chatter box or life of the party loudmouth. Is that not something so fascinating how one of the most influential leaders in history did not have to resort to obnoxious or proud speeches like politicians these days? So are we following in his footsteps..
Sometimes when you find yourself too exposed or overwhelmed by the outside world, try to take a step back; time out to reflect by yourself and find your balance. It is pointless burning yourself out only to discover that you have not grasped anything deep or profound in life. Revert to your introvert being.. we all have it inside of us. Just need to nurture it from time to time. You can rejuvenate your soul, clear your cluttered mind and feel lighter to move forward. If you find yourself already introverted enough, then support your fellow extroverted sister to discover the other side. You both might be pleasantly surprised!
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